Relationship Builders 360 conducts the official Rebuilding Seminars live in Madison, Wisconsin, and offers virtual sessions for clients throughout the state and country. We provide classes, counseling and coaching to dramatically accelerate your recovery, provide lifelong tools that will enable to turn the page and start a new chapter on your life that is deeply satisfying.
Margaret Lambert, MSW, LCSW is a psychotherapist, group facilitator, teacher and author. She specializes in all levels of couple relationships and offers a three level approach to divorce and separation recovery, healing and future relationship development.
Margaret is the cofounder, with her colleague, Dee Vetter, Ph.D. of Sonas Behavioral Health, LLC on the west side of Madison, Wisconsin. In her private practice Margaret worked with individuals and couples addressing a variety of relationship concerns, including marital and couples coaching, divorce recovery, women's self-esteem and empowerment and healthy approaches to dating.
Her work with groups, individuals and couples has a strong foundation in Family Systems Theory; with a Cognitive-Behavioral and Psychoeducational approach. Margaret personally trained with Dr. Bruce Fisher, founder of the divorce and separation Rebuilding model, and has been successfully facilitating groups for over 26 years.
Through the therapeutic experience, I have the privilege of being invited into individual’s lives as they share the struggles they have been experiencing. People suffer in many different ways, and respond differently to those events in their lives based on the personal, social or financial resources they have at their disposal. For some, this can lead to feeling depressed or anxious. They may feel hopeless or even helpless in their ability to turn things around in their lives. To be allowed to be part of their process of change and rebuilding is a gift; and one that I do not take lightly. I really value seeing individuals make changes through their own efforts.
Margaret's practice is relationship focused and strength based. She offers a wrap-around approach relationship building which helps individuals improve their ability to build and maintain healthier relationships with a partner, a friend or even a family member. Whether you are preparing for marriage, struggling in a relationship, thinking of a divorce or separation or recovering from a relationship, her 360 program offers information, guidance, emotional support and community opportunities for transitions.
You don't have to do this alone. You aren't the only one going through this. With the right combination of community, coaching, and content you can dramatically rebuild your life. You can be happy and looking forward to the next chapter. How will you Rebuild?
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In a few days we will be breaking out the grills, cracking open bottles of beer, waving flags and shooting off backyard fireworks. Some of us will attend big pyrotechnic displays at local municipal parks. Others will set up blankets and lawn chairs along crowded downtown streets to watch parades of high school marching bands, floats advertizing local businesses and organizations not to mention the shiny fire trucks, farm equipment and possibly the mayor and his wife. The local Boy and Girl Scout troops will brave the heat for that long walk down Main streets across the USA to toss Tootsie Rolls and suckers to children lining the curbs. Like people everywhere, Americans like to find reasons to celebrate and July 4th gives us reason to head out and do just that.
For the most part, the 4th of July is our time to celebrate. But, I wonder how many of us even think of this day as Independence Day and all that means in terms of the personal freedoms we enjoy today?
It has been a long time since I read the words of our Declaration of Independence so thank goodness for computers that put that information at my finger tips. As it reads, “When in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another…” As I read the words of this manuscript penned in 1776 I was reminded that this declaration was one of divorce; one country divorcing itself from another and in doing so to “declare the causes which impel them to the separation.” The writers proceeded to list the numerous grievances that lead up to the decision to break away from the English governance. Eleven years later, the final draft of what is now our constitution was penned and when the final state ratified it in 1789 it became the supreme law of the land by which we govern ourselves. Since then there has been some fine-tuning in the form of the 27 amendments.
Our celebration of Independence Day is our way of acknowledging the struggles of people starting over. They divorced themselves from an intolerable past ruling so they could reach out and embrace a brand new future. They would draw from personal experience to devise a new document based on what they learned from their historical governing roots. They would write a pledge to each other and to the country about how they would act towards each other, for each other.
This led me down other paths of thought. What was this paper that such an important pledge would have been written on? With what would they sign such a significant document so the words to be inscribed could be view for generations to come? And finally, how would they protect such an important manuscript? The answer is that these documents were written on parchment but not ordinary parchment. The material was a vellum parchment which was the finest parchment used for all very important documents. It was made by stretching and scraping sheepskin until it was very thin; a product that could stand up to the elements and time. The ink too was the best of the time. It was called iron gall ink. These very extraordinary documents were given the best materials so they would last, so the words could be read by all who followed. Now they are safely housed in the rotunda of the National Archives building in Washington, DC. and are still being viewed today.
All in all, these documents represent the struggles of a people who recognized the need to break an unhealthy alliance in order to create a new system that would be just and equitable for all involved. They realized that what they were undertaking was important enough to warrant significant conversation and consideration as well as to mark it in history in such a way as to preserve it for generations to come. This is what we celebrate.
Are there personal lessons that can be drawn from this common history? Many who read my blog are in the process of ending unhealthy alliances. Participating in the Rebuilding class involves recognizing that wrongs have been committed and naming those wrongs. It involves looking at personal relationship histories to see where the relationship constitution was either never defined and written down or not honored by one or both. But a big part of rebuilding after a relationship ends is to create a personal declaration of independence and to have a good and respectful breaking away so a happy new beginning can be written. A good ending involves honestly looking at what worked and what didn’t so that a new personal constitution can be written based on facts. How will you begin to write your personal code now that you are single? Will it need to be amended as new personal information is made conscious? How will you protect and preserve your personal constitution as you move forward connecting with new people?
You’ve already come a long way. Let’s reach the next level together.
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